I like breaking down ideas into their component parts and understanding them.  Especially ideas that describe the behavior of people.  This gives me a working model that I can use.  I can reflect on the model.  I can compare it to models that already exist.  I can compare two different models to see if there are similarities.  And I can sometimes combine more than one model to create another that I consider to be more complete.  Then I can look at people's behavior as a series of thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and actions.

Sometimes it is possible to see the interactions between these things and the effects they have on each other and the outcomes of things.  I can also compare the thinking, feeling, belief, and behavior of a real person to the model.  When I do this so I can see if and how the real behavior is different to the model.  Sometimes I can see if and how these differences modify the outcomes.

I also like relatively precise use of language. Not in the literary sense, but in the choice of words and grammar.  To see how accurately the words I use, or the words used by another person accurately express what I think the person means, wants to mean, would like to mean, or has done. People use words very differently.  Sometimes they use words to share an idea, convince us of an idea, impose an idea, question an idea; I presume that there is a very long list of things people want to do and can do and could do with language and words and grammar.  I can then reflect to the person who has decided to work with me what their words have communicated to me.  I can also use their words to ask questions.  

I also use models to see how their words, usually combined with their thoughts, feelings, beliefs and behavior, compare to the model, where there are differences and similarities.  Some models can be considered to obtain outcomes that are different in some way, desirable.  We can think later how different models can promise different results, or outcomes, not sure if those two words have a fundamentally different meaning, which is an example of how I understand oral and written language.  Just a note, not all languages are oral or written.  language can also be body, facial, emotional, tonal, volume, speed, inaccurate, misspoken, or inadequate, excessive, flowery, literary, comical, and the most proscribed one, is a lie. Untrue, not factual, deliberately misleading.

Having a working model doesn’t make me an actor though, maybe it makes me an engineer?   Having paint brushes and paint doesn’t make me a painter, knowing how to paint doesn’t make me a painter.  But I admire enormously the painter, and I can give the painter some ideas about painting, and the painter can paint better with the ideas I give to them. 

The tennis player wins the match, but the player cannot watch the match and play it at the same time.  Although he could watch a replay if it was recorded.  But the coach can watch the player and see what the player does that makes him the winner, or the loser, of the match; and the coach can do that even during the match.  Then he can give that information to the player or to other players that will improve their performance.  The player still needs to be the person who decides and applies these ideas and learns to work with them, because even with the ideas not all players are excellent at executing them, not all painters are masters.

Coaches and players have very different skills, desires, pleasures, rewards.  But they share a common goal.

If you combine a good coach and an excellent player, then you can get an exceptional result.